In some instances, children are better than adults at setting an example of how to act and behave.
Consider social media.
A lot of adults use it to splatter hate-filled political opinions, misinformation and simplistic, insulting memes to anyone and everyone in their social media world.
Kids – not so much. They’re using it to make friends (not the creepy kind), bond with other children, interact with the real world around them and build their own identities in a positive way.
That’s according to Marguerite Ohrtmanm, assistant teaching professor in the College of Education and Human Development and president of the Minnesota School Counselor Association. She was recently interviewed as part of the University of Minnesota’s “Talking with U of M, ”an online series in which the university’s faculty answer questions on current and other topics of general interest.
Ohrtmann stressed, however, that adults still need to monitor what their children are doing on social media, take precautions and set boundaries.
Here are key segments from the interview:
Q: What social media sites are the kids using today?
In a recent study, we explored what social media platforms fourth graders were using. We found that YouTube was the most popular, but Snapchat and Instagram were also used frequently by preadolescents. Students are using these vehicles to connect with others — whether on a larger social scale or one-on-one. Children and teens may not use Facebook like their parents and guardians, but, like adults, they are looking for creative ways to interact with the world around them.
Q: We hear a lot about the negative influences of social media. What can kids gain from socializing online?
We are finding that students are able to expand their social circle. Elementary school students in our study who use YouTube reported it gives them the ability to expand their social network to individuals with life experiences that might differ from their own (bridging).
Those who use Snapchat told us it deepened their one-on-one relationships (bonding). In addition, we found participants were using social media when they were lonely. This suggests that social media helps students connect with others.
Lastly, we found no significant difference in emotional intelligence scores between social media users and non-users. This contradicts some media reports that social media could contribute to hyperactivity and peer problems.
Q: What activities/interactions do elementary school-age children typically enjoy participating in online?
From our findings, elementary school children enjoy watching videos on YouTube, but also want the immediate interaction that Snapchat provides. For many children and adolescents, social media is a way to build an online identity. This identity may be a lot like who they present as in person, but it can also represent who they want to be. Social media can give children a voice in a world where, often times, their voice is not heard.
Q: What tips do you have for parents to ensure kids have positive experiences online?
The first step is to know what your children are doing online. Communicate regularly about what sites are being used; show kids what privacy settings are and how to use them, and model appropriate online behavior (e.g., with what you post and “like” online). I think when parents and guardians assume children have good online boundaries, kids can get themselves into negative situations.
It’s the association’s hope that these findings will help school counselors guide kids and their parents in building healthy online relationships.
This editorial was written by the Alexandria Echo Press, a Forum Communications Co. newspaper.