Traffic stop leads to 21 years of sobriety
Every Fourth of July for the past 21 years, Jim Kimbllin has called Hubbard County Chief Deputy Scott Parks to thank him for arresting him.
It was approaching midnight on July 4, 2000 when Jim Kimbllin was pulled over by Hubbard County Chief Deputy Scott Parks, a Park Rapids police officer at the time. He was heading back from his uncle’s place near Detroit Lake to his home near Hackensack with his two young children in the back seat.
“I call Scott every July 4 because that arrest truly saved my life,” Kimbllin said. “My life was spiraling downward, not just because I was going through a divorce, but because alcohol and its addictive nature had taken hold of me.”
Hitting rock bottom
Kimbllin said he was about 10 miles over the speed limit when he was pulled over by Parks.
“I believe he saw signs in my driving that I was under the influence, too,” he said. “If memory serves me right my blood alcohol level was .23, more than twice the legal limit..”
Although he already had one DUI on his record, Kimbllin said he hoped he could just sleep it off and go home in the morning. He asked Parks if he could take his kids to a motel across the highway and was told no, he was being arrested and his kids were going to foster care.
“People need to be at rock bottom to finally make a decision to quit drugs or alcohol,” Kimbllin said. “Deputy Parks created that low point by arresting me and allowing me to finally see what I was doing to myself and my children. Being handcuffed and looking back at my two children staring out the rear window of the car, I realized I needed to quit drinking. Then going to jail, being cuffed around my ankles and going in front of the judge...it was a process I never want to go through again. Scott Parks not only saved my life and my children’s lives, but what could have been countless others. Police aren’t the good guys when people get arrested, but in my case it was exactly what I needed.”
Hubbard County Sheriff Cory Aukes said he hired Scott Parks 11 years ago for a reason.
“He was a great officer for the city of Park Rapids and I wanted him to help lead the sheriff's office,” he said. “He believed in not only traffic enforcement, but truly was exceptional when it came to getting drunk drivers off our roadways. It’s nice to hear that someone that was arrested for DUI has seen the light and realizes that it’s better to put that lifestyle behind him than trying to continue down that path.”
Working with the court system, Kimbllin was able to keep his job at a coal-burning power plant in Minnesota while attending outpatient treatment. He also joined the Alcoholics Anonymous (AA) program for ongoing support in his sobriety.
“AA is a really good program because as people tell their stories you can take what they learned and apply it to your own life,” he said. “It really helps keep you focused and has been a great thing for me.”
The AA 12-step program includes making amends to people who were hurt by your drinking.
“It is difficult,” he said. “I sat down with my mom and my brothers and sisters. It’s very humbling to know that you’ve hurt them that much, but yet very good because you’ve quit. From headaches to heartaches to hangovers, that’s all behind me now. There are so many things I have to be thankful for. I’m remarried and my wife has been by my side since 2005 and a positive influence on my sobriety. I’m very blessed.”
Sharing what he’s learned
Kimbllin now sponsors others through AA. “I’m giving back,” he said. “The four people I sponsor are all sober now, too.”
His kids are now 26 and 32. While they don’t talk about what happened that night, he said they know he kept his promise to stay sober.
“You have to want to stop drinking,” he said. “Sometimes that happens after a person gets in an accident, gets arrested or their life is turned upside down so bad that they have to do something. With drinking and drugs, sometimes a family member or friend asks for an intervention to get their loved one into treatment.”
Kimbllin has been a part of those interventions.
“In one case, I had a phone call from a friend who had been drinking,” he said. “I contacted his wife and she asked for an intervention. His kids were there. It was a powerful thing to hear the children talk to their father about how his drinking had affected them and their family. He went with me to Hazelden and he’s been sober for about five years. You intervene to save their life and save their family. I’ve had friends who have died because of drinking or drugs. I’m one of the lucky ones.”
When he’s out with friends and someone asks him what he wants to drink, Kimbllin openly shares that he doesn’t drink alcohol. “Most of the time people can appreciate why I don’t drink and some say they wish they didn’t drink,” he said. “Others continue drinking. It’s socially acceptable. But when you go over the limit that’s when help is needed.”
He said it’s important for parents to be open about the risks of drinking with their children, too. “Get them into sports and other activities helps give them other outlets,” he said. “Don’t let them run with the wrong group. Kids are kids and parents are busy. That’s all part of it.”
Warning signs of a drug or alcohol problem include going overboard with social drinking, drinking alone, drinking and driving and blackouts.
“I continued to drink and it got worse and worse,” he said. “Depression can play a big part in it too. Alcoholism can happen to anyone. When you quit drinking you have to change your friends, because the ones you were hanging with will keep drinking and that could pull you back in.”
Where to find help
Park Rapids AA meetings are held at Calvary Lutheran Church at noon Monday through Friday. Evening meetings are held at 6 p.m. Tuesdays and Saturdays and at 7 p.m. Thursdays. Use the northeast entrance. Call 2188-732-7284 for more information. AA Meetings are also held at 8 p.m. Mondays at First Lutheran Church in Akeley and at 8 p.m. on Wednesdays at the Menahga Community Center. There is also information available at AA.org.
Hubbard In Prevention Coalition strives to reduce the use of alcohol, tobacco, and other drugs by youth in Hubbard County. Go to their website for contact information or call coordinator Angela Graham at 218-255-3692.
Recovery Helpline connects people with resources for alcohol and substance abuse and mental health in their area by calling 866-641-9190.
Pine Manor Treatment Center in rural Nevis offers a high-intensity, inpatient treatment for adults. Following an assessment and referral treatment runs from 28 to 90 days of drug and alcohol treatment and may be covered by insurance. The center also has an eight-bed detox area. For more information, call 218-732-4337.